Archives for the Date February 19th, 2018

OK I’m coming to your old blog with a head scratcher, I do not hate SC and I appreciate their acting, which is good, sadly, they taught me that “stanning” people is a mistake, but I don’t hate them, THAT BEING SAID what the fuck were they trying to accomplish? They’re beautiful, talented people, they’re socially conscious (not #woke by ANY MEANS, but still) and seem nice, did they think their beauty and talent was not gonna be enough? They didn’t need to oversell ANYTHING and yet they did, WTF?

For the first two years up to the IFH, I could MAYBE reach and buy that they were both really green and didn’t know how their behavior together looked to the fans (along with the twitter and Facebook and insta likes, etc.), but after that? After that, it became willful, purposeful deceit. It just did. I know they said The Words, but they never matched the actions up with their “we are not together” bullshit. I don’t even need to list all the things they did, we all know them.

But apart from what they themselves did, why were so many people who surround them doing it, too? Why did WCC’s social media director go on a trip with Cait to Ghana, then come back and follow me, Jess and Julia on twitter at the same time and start liking shipper tweets and pics on IG? Why did Cait’s hairstylist friend tag a Cait Heughan account on IG and talk to it like it was her? Why do her friends follow blatant shipper accounts on IG? HER friends, not Sam’s! Why do people who have worked with them on the show follow shipper IG accounts or like shipper pics? If it was all shipper bait, at least have the moral fortitude and decency to not turn around and throw those same people under the bus then.

So honestly, I have no idea why they’re doing what they’re doing. They couldn’t look shadier. I thought Sam’s descent into the gutter with MM was excruciatingly painful to watch, but Cait jumped head first into it over the course of just about a month and I’m not sure which has been worse to see. I NEVER thought I would see her stage a pap walk. NEVER. I am one of the many shook Oprah gifs right now.

thatonekimgirl: they’re so handsy and i love it (x)


they’re so handsy and i love it (x)

scenesandscreens: Synecdoche, New York (2008) Director -…


Synecdoche, New York (2008)

Director – Charlie Kaufman, Cinematography – Frederick Elmes

“I will be dying and so will you, and so will everyone here. That’s what I want to explore. We’re all hurtling towards death, yet here we are for the moment, alive. Each of us knowing we’re going to die, each of us secretly believing we won’t.”

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Intuition is real. Vibes are real. Energy doesn’t lie. Tune in.

This is actually called thin slicing. Your brain recognizes patterns from very small “slices” of information by comparing them to things you have experienced before. This all happens very quickly on a subconscious level without our conscious mind being involved. So intuition is actually really fast pattern recognition, and it can be very accurate. So yeah, if you have a gut feeling that a person or situation is not good, get the hell out. Your brain knows what’s up. 

When I was young – because I’ve always been a big skeptical pain in the ass – I thought that when people were talking about interpersonal “energy,” they were on some Gay Ass Shit.

Years later, after spending hundreds of hours reading studies about intuition and neuroscience and pattern recognition and the processing power of the subconscious mind, I realized that that kind of talk – “she has such good energy,” “you need to read the energy of the room,” “I just got some really bad energy off of that guy” – is a convenient shorthand for the lightning-fast, weirdly-accurate, real-as-fuck subconscious processing of the probability of positive or negative social outcomes likely to result from hundreds or thousands of variables. That “energy” isn’t a tangible thing floating around in the air. It’s your brain updating you constantly with information about your situation. Listen to it. Especially if it’s telling you to be nervous or scared. Your brain is very good at recognizing danger. Let the enormous processing power of your subconscious mind protect you. It’s better at spotting patterns than you are. 

“Bad energy” isn’t some hippie shit. It’s your brain setting off a claxon because it knows something’s not right.

Thin slicing is wonderfully helpful, but be aware that if it’s doing its pattern recognition from bad sources, you need to actively override it. We’re raised in a racist society, inundated with racist media, and bombarded with subtly (or unsubtly) racist advice. Thin slicing can save your life, but it’s also the cause behind the unconscious elements of racism (and misogyny/ableism/antisemitism/islamophobia/etc.) that we all suffer from

Trust your instincts, but if your instincts tell you something that seems prejudicial, double check their work.

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